Sorry about your bad choices in women. There are lots of deadbeat fathers that would put their children in harms way to feed their own vices and should be on a really short leash when having access to their kids. Jasep could be one of them. In fact the evidence we have leans towards it. So why shouldn't the child's mother be aware of what he is doing? Do you blindly assume he will always do the right thing when his kid is involved? What if he meets up with someone he scammed while he has custody of his daughter? Shit can get real. Let her decide.