Quote Originally Posted by Dan Druff View Post

This is generalizing too much.

Crowder's treatment of his wife isn't from being a religious Christian. That might inform some of his views, but note that he treated his male employees in a similar degrading, controlling manner as he did his wife.

This seems to much more be a product of psychological issues on his part. There's something wrong with the guy. I've seen evidence of this for a long time, and even posted about it on this forum, long before most others were talking about it. Even when I was a big fan of the show and watched it every day, my opinion was, "Crowder is a very entertaining and talented guy, but he seems like he'd be a real asshole to work for."

The wife stuff was surprising but not surprising. It's not surprising in that it mirrors how he treats his employees, even ones he got to befriend. It's surprising in that he ranted many times on his show about respecting your wife, that the husband and wife are both important in the marriage and both bring different things to the table, and other statements which would indicate that he saw his wife as a partner and not a slave. Looks like that was all just a bunch of rhetoric, and indeed he believed his wife was mostly a servant to him.

It's also possible that his wife had her own issues, and mistreated him at times, and we only got to see the hand-selected video where she was very calm/reasonable and he was the complete asshole. Maybe at other times, Crowder himself was the reasonable one, and his wife was acting crazy. But I doubt it. As I said, Crowder already has history regarding lashing out at people close to him, and treating others like shit.
Let me clarify that I am not suggesting EVERY Evangelical husband is this way; it is simply my position that the way they teach the religion, as well as the political ends they would see effectuated, enables this sort of systematic control over their wives for those inclined to do so.

Also, let me make it clear that these spousal issues are far from the only thing that they try to handle, 'In house,' and there are all manner of things wherein they basically cover for one another; abuses of any variety you can think of. I've not been subject to any form of abuse, but I've certainly seen it happen on a few occasions and also have second-hand knowledge of it from individuals who I tend to think are credible.

As far as Crowder being empty and sanctimonious rhetoric, once again, that is something that is not at all uncommon with Evangelicals. Outward appearances mean everything to a great many of those people, but there are often unspeakable things that take place behind close doors within their families. Honestly, by the standard I would have for a guy like Crowder who does this sort of preaching, his treatment of his wife in the video is not even particularly egregious for them. I've witnessed far worse first hand; lots of these types of guys seem to get off, specifically, on talking to their wives this way in front of others.

Anyway, Evangelicalism is all about control over family, society, government---everyone and everything. When you marry that sort of religious philosophy, and the protection of the church from things coming to public light, with someone who seems naturally inclined (such as Crowder) to be controlling and abusive, this is what you get.

Even if his wife was sometimes the crazy one, it honestly wouldn't matter. The kind of stuff that came out of Crowder's mouth you simply could never compel a person to say unless that's just fundamentally who they are.

It's like hitting a woman, right? Short of attacking me with some sort of weapon where I suffer an imminent risk of death or serious injury, there is nothing a woman could ever do to get me to raise my hand to her. You could see me in my worst moment with someone, but that is simply something that is not going to happen because it's not who I am.

With Crowder, and these reports of him from employees (and the like) this is simply a reflection of who the guy is. He's a sanctimonious and lying Evangelical who can barely even hold it together enough to pretend to be a half decent human being in the public light...much less what he does in private. And, again, one of the worst aspects of many elements of Christianity is that it makes being a person like that easier.